My daughter will be turning two sooner than I can blink and it got me thinking about my pregnancy. That in turn got me thinking about some of the things that people said to me at the time, that didn’t quite come out right. I’m sure they meant well (maybe?), but they really put their foot into their mouth. So without further adieu…
EXAMPLE #1: After it became generally known that I was pregnant at work, sometime after my first trimester, a co-worker said to me, “Oh so that’s why you’ve been looking so pale lately. I thought you didn’t look well, and now it all make sense!”
I had no witty rejoinder for this person as I was still battling morning sickness and was trying not to gag on my own saliva. Talking was making it worse at that point. I just ignored the comment and went back to my desk. I may have tried to force a saltine or two down my throat to cope.
EXAMPLE #2: During my 3rd trimester, I went through a crazy craving for pop tarts. Any flavor, it didn’t matter. One day, I was coming back from the vending machine, pop tarts in hand. A lovely co-worker, who apparently sidelines for the vending machine police, says to me, “Pop tarts again? There’s not going to be any left for anyone else!” Lest you think I was inhaling pop tarts by the package-full, rest assured I was not. This particular person just happened to be there every time I wanted a pop tart.
Word of advice to people remarking on what a pregnant woman is eating: don’t. I wanted to drop kick her and maybe I would have… if I could have seen my feet…
EXAMPLE #3: After my emergency C-section and extended stay in the hospital, I was not really feeling myself. Add to that a newborn needing attention… I really just needed 20 minutes to myself. So my husband agreed to watch the baby and dropped me off to get a pedicure. Now this was my regular place to go to, so they knew that I was pregnant and that I now had the baby. The lady doing my pedicure says to me, “Oh… you still look pregnant.”
Really? REALLY??? I so didn’t need to hear that after what I just went through. I wanted to say to this woman, do you think that the baby weight just falls off immediately? Like a week later you’re just magically back to your pre-baby weight?
I really wanted to just burst into tears at that point. (Hormones are something else, let me tell you). But I took a deep breath and just tried to relax and get my pedicure. In my mind though… in my mind I drop kicked her like I wish I could’ve done with my co-worker.
Look, I’m no saint. I’ve said things I wish I could’ve taken back, the minute the words were out of my mouth. But my hope is that before you decide to go for it and stick your foot in your mouth, think about your words. Especially to pregnant women. Just cause I didn’t drop kick someone, don’t be fooled. There are plenty of pregnant women out there who will.