I admit, I’m a Dave Ramsey novice. I’ve never read a book, perused a website, tuned to the dial of his radio show, or glanced at anything to do with the man.
I decided to pick up a book of his at the library and see for myself just what was in the kool-aid, that made people swear by him (or swear at him if you are not the kool-aid drinking kind).
I’ve started the book and while I am not even remotely close to being done, something he brought up struck a chord with me. A sick to my stomach sort of chord.
He brought up the subject of having a will.
See, this subject makes me feel all icky and brings on heart palpitations for yours truly. Yes I know, we all gotta go sometime. Yes I know, it’s not a matter of if, it’s when. But before you bring up another trite maxim to describe the situation, hear me out.
Dying scares the crap out of me.
Wow… I feel a little better about saying it. Look, I know I am not going to live forever, nor do I want to be cryogenically (is that even a word?) frozen or any of that.
But I don’t want to miss out on life either.
The thought of not being here to guide my daughter through life or not sharing one more anniversary with my husband, truly makes me nauseous. My husband and I tried to have one of those “God forbid anything should happen to both of us, who would take care of our daughter” talks sometime after she was first born, and I shut down. The conversation was stifled before it even got off the ground.
I know having a will is important. I know that in so many cases, the state doesn’t look into what’s best for the child or the family. I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my anxiety on the subject matter.
For me, it is going to require many, many baby steps to do and complete this process. I’m a nervous wreck even typing this but I know it must get done.
Do you guys have a will? Was it a difficult process?