More times than I care to admit, my husband has been asked over and over again by mutual friends/co-workers, when I am going to go back to work. I assume that chasing after a two-year-old everyday does not constitute as real work with these people, so when they mean “work”, they mean back to the “corporate world”.
My husband (wonderful man that he is), replies back to this oft-asked question, and says “She does work. She takes care of our daughter”. Then said-person will reply, “No, really working. You know, back to the office”.
Now before I give you my husband’s response to this statement, let’s digress for a moment, shall we? What does really working mean? Since when did taking care of your child not count as work? I didn’t know that feeding and taking care of a child did not constitute as work. Oh wait, if you pay someone to take care of your child, than it’s work for that person. But if you are staying home and taking care of your own child, then it’s…what?
So let’s get back to the person who wants to know when I’m coming back to the office to really work. My husband (I love this man, I really do!) replies back “She does work. Her job is way harder than mine is”.
Now said person doesn’t let the issue go. No, that would be too easy. They now say, “Ok, but at some point when she is done staying home, she is coming back right?”
I wish I was making this up folks, but I’m not. I’m really not.
Is it too much to ask, that people understand that being a stay-at-home parent is a job. A fulfilling, wonderful job complete with messes, tantrums, crying (by both parent and child), and hugs. Lots of hugs.
And I wouldn’t trade it for anything.