Anxiety is a jerk to have around and if you have had bouts of it, have dealt with it, or simply had a run-in or two with it, you know the havoc that this little blood-sucker can wreak. I speak from experience that it is not a fun thing to deal with.
There is no magic cure-all for depression and/or anxiety but one of the things I have read quite a bit on in terms of dealing with it, is to stay present. Stay in the here and now. Not the past, and for crying out loud, most definitely not the future.
But what if? What if this happens? What if that happens?
What if, what if, what if!!!!! Perpetual cycle of anxiety start in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and go…
It is exhausting to deal with anxiety and it really takes a lot out of you. It is also difficult to change your mindset when for so long, this is how your thought process has always worked.
What helps (not cures), is trying to stay present as much as possible. Yes, the past is there lurking over your shoulder. And of course the future is there staring you in the face. But what if we could just be? Be present. Be cognizant. Be aware. Be in the moment.
Why do we give apprehension about what could happen power over our thoughts? Why do unfamiliar thoughts about which we have no knowledge of them actually going to happen, hold us in their tight grips?
I don’t know why us humans do what we do. I do know that when I actively choose not to let my thinking spiral into the familiar “what if’s” category, I feel calmer. I breathe easier. I don’t feel constricted. It is hard to stay present and be mindful and I don’t always excel at it.
But we only get one life. There is so much I want to do and see, and I can’t do that with anxiety weighing me down causing me to feel like an anchor falling fast into the sea. I want to live, truly live.