Who you are at 35, is not who you are at 25.
Repeat it. Write it down. Study it.
Life is hard enough as it is, right? So many things to do, so many things needing to be accomplished, so many thoughts needing attention. But one thing that remains constant is that we are ever-changing creatures. Life ebbs and flows, and like the blood coursing through our veins, so do we.
This beautiful thing we call life and this wonderful thing we do each day called living, is not done in a vacuum. We evolve. We age. And that is a good thing. Age is nothing but a number or so everyone tells us, but there is an aspect of truth in this statement related to how we maneuver our lives.
Who you are at any age, is not who you were ten years prior. This nugget of wisdom can apply to any age, right? Who you are at 15 is definitely not who you were at age 5. I mean Legos might’ve been your thing when you still wore Velcro tennis shoes, but as a teenager? No way, and you definitely would not be wearing tennis shoes that didn’t have shoelaces!
Using myself as an example, who I was at 25 was most definitely not who I ended up being at 35. My core values were still there, yes. Same brown hair. Same inability to not eat through a box of Girl Scout Thin Mints in a day. (Note: this is precisely why I do not keep any in the house). But what I am saying is that the same characteristics that make up my structure were still the same, but I was a different person.
At 25, I still fought for relationships that didn’t work and was utterly devastated when the reciprocity of the friendships was not there. At 35, I knew when the friendship/relationship was toxic and knew when to walk away.
At 25, I didn’t understand why being in crowds was physically draining for me or why I didn’t always want to hang out or go out all the time. At 35, I recognized and appreciated my introvert tendencies and only said yes to events where I would have a significant downtime to recover.
At 25, I didn’t pay attention at all to eating healthfully. At 35, eating healthfully was a huge part of my life.
You get the picture. As humans we mature. We age. We evolve.
If you didn’t have your financial $&#! together in your 20’s, but now you do in your 30’s or 40’s, hey that’s good! If the word “budget” was a dirty word when you were 21, but now at 31 you live to start a new budget every month, that is truly awesome!
We are not meant to stay stuck in a time warp of yesteryear. We are meant to grow and expand our way of thinking.
We are meant to learn lessons.
We all get older one more year. Lyrically we all put a new record on the player.
It is okay to let go. It is okay to turn away from things that you no longer feel a connection to. It is okay to walk away from a way of life that no longer is working for you. It is okay to want new surroundings, new escapades, new ideas.
It is all okay.
Give yourself permission to grow. Give yourself permission to let go.
It is okay that you have lost some of your naiveté and have a different outlook on life. That’s fine. Build on it. Let go of what is not working.
Remember, who you were then is not who you have to be now.
Don’t let your light diminish.